The first day at day care is a big one for all concerned mum, child and carer. It is exciting and terrifying at the same time. Here are a few tips on how best to prepare all of you for the big day and help make that transition a smooth one.

Mom - Start gently preparing your child in advance, mentioning what a great adventure day care will be with lots of friends and games. Keep it low key though do not overdo it as this could overwhelm your child. Provider - You could provide mom with the first names of children and carers at the day care and suggest role playing with dolls so everything is not completely strange on that first day.

Mom should begin some of the day care routines with the child in the weeks preceding and encourage independence by arranging visits to friends. The provider should insist that mom and child pay numerous visits to the day care in the weeks before the first day so all is not completely strange.

Mom, try and have everything packed and labeled the night before (change of clothes, comfort toys, snacks) and all administrative tasks i.e. payment, forms etc taken care of so you can focus on your child. Have a fun breakfast and chat enthusiastically about the adventure ahead. Providers should have an extra staff member on hand to help with the settling in.

Mom, let your child help pack his bag (comfort toys, change of clothes, snacks) and when you get to the day care, walk him in do not carry him. Providers should request this of all parents, it makes the separation easier plus is a big part of kids becoming independent.

All day cares should have a settling in period where the child will stay for gradually longer periods of time. it is crucial you facilitate mom to be in the background. This is where mom needs to take a back seat and observe rather than interact. Let the child move at his own pace, be it observing quietly or playing alone, sometimes the child may just wish to sit on a sofa and take it all in. When mom leaves, distract the child immediately by ushering them off to some exciting activity.

Moms should take a back seat the first day of settling in. Allow your child to do his own thing, observing or interacting - he will go at his own pace. Gradually, you may step into the hall, first explaining you are going to the bathroom and eventually, you will sit in your car or get a coffee as your child settles down. Always remember to say, bye mommy will see you later, firmly and cheerfully. Do not look back if your child cries. They will be distracted and will stop crying shortly.

It is very important to establish this drop off routine from day one. Firm and consistent is key with children. Communication and understanding between parents and providers will make for a smooth and enjoyable transition for the child. Now, moms, enjoy your cup of coffee in peace!!! Providers enjoy your new little personality!